“True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. Discover and share Loving Someone Who Loves Someone Else Quotes. And if you found that kind of happiness with her, it’s okay. And if you found that kind of happiness with her, it’s okay. Learn more about working with Thought Catalog. The more you accept that there is always a chance that things won’t go the way that you think they will, the less likely you are to be caught off-guard when that happens. For More Of His Thoughts And Ramblings, Follow Paul Hudson On Twitter, Facebook, And Instagram. When you love someone you just know.If you have to think about whether you love someone or not then the answer is no. Learn about us. But that wasn't -- isn't -- the case. My heart was racing. I thought that if I couldn’t find love again, she must feel the same way. There is one positive outcome from this: You shed excess. It truly is painful to see the one you love, love someone else. Our beliefs define us and determine our future. You may unsubscribe at any time. Dedicated to your stories and ideas. The problem is that you don’t want to be different. You now have a partially blank slate. You deserve the most genuine kind of happiness that this world has to offer. Love isn’t just about the emotions you’re feeling. Unless you love someone, nothing else makes any sense. I didn’t know what to think. So I closed the door on a love affair that changed my life and taught me more than anything else ever could. But I learned she was running to me because she was running away from someone else -- a man she now loves. We expect more than we're likely to get. It truly is painful to see the one you love, love someone else. But I did understand the likelihood of each possible outcome. Not all of your hopes and dreams are going to come true, and when one of them collapses in front of your eyes, it hurts more than you could possibly imagine. When you realize that your loved one is in love with someone else, you see that the life you thought you'd have is no longer possible. The hardest part is accepting your new self. It’s not that you’ve changed into a complete stranger; you still recognize yourself. 204. You start to once again get a grasp on your life, your reality and your future. I was smart enough to understand where things were going before they got there. Loving someone is a selfless act. We barely notice the difference between our expectations and reality, and we live our lives as if none of it mattered. You let go of the stress and worry of not knowing how things will turn out, because now you know the answer. You deserve the most genuine kind of happiness that this world has to offer. The more eager we grow, the more painful the experience is when it's not what we wanted. I wanted to be with her, to create a life together. Deep love quotes to warm your heart. Unfortunately, I’ve come to learn that sometimes -- no matter how aware you are that things may not work out -- there is no such thing as sufficient mental preparation. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. When You Get A Love That You Don’t Deserve, To The One Who Didn’t Choose Me And Made Me Choose Myself, 8 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me When I Was Diagnosed With Herpes, 6 Reasons Why I (And You) Need to Move On From That Failed Relationship, 220 Romantic Love Quotes for Her Because She Deserves to Feel Loved, I Want You To Grab My Hand When I Try To Walk Away. I confirmed my theories about love and life because I was able to see the end before it arrived. Reality is different from our expectations, and most of the time that doesn't really bother us. The wind was knocked out of me. I could have come into the light and claimed you as mine. I wanted to start a family. I wanted -- and was ready -- to be the man, partner and lover that she had always wanted. Then you do your best to figure out how to cope with it. I may have understood how things were going, but I didn't want to watch. You don’t want to change. Probably. That’s the issue with expectations: We usually overshoot them. And that's one of the reasons I've always loved her so much; she has an immense capacity for love. Â. I tried loving others, but it never worked out. The question is: do you have it in you to redefine your beliefs, to redefine what you think the purpose of all this is? Seeing the person you love fall in love with someone else can destroy you. “When you love someone, you love the whole person, just as he or she is, and not as you would like them to be.”– Leo Tolstoy. I didn’t know what to say. It's about the place he or she has in your life as well as your heart. You can’t always have what you want in life, and that’s okay. It’s funny how things never really turn out the way you thought they would. It's necessary that we understand the statistical chances of one thing happening versus another. It’s important to be optimistic, but it’s just as important to be realistic. I couldn’t spend another second talking to her, because I knew I was about to break down. Explore our collection of motivational and famous quotes by authors you know and love. I guess that’s why it was so incredibly difficult to see her in love with another man. Then there are other times -- when our anticipation takes root and grows over months or years of waiting -- when real life pales in comparison to our fantasies. What matters is that I learned. I have a better, fuller understanding of things. You'll no longer feel or look at the world in the same way. And if that dream is a future with someone you love, your world will be turned upside down. The part of you that just died gives room for growth. I believed she would love me for the rest of her life, as I will love her for the rest of mine. I may not be in the right position to act like this because there was never an “us.”. This doesn’t change the fact that I was caught off-guard. You just know that you’re now different. Then you do your best to figure out how to cope with it. But if this is the only way for me to be able to see you smile every day, then it’s okay. “The heart has its own language. Of course, I couldn’t know anything for certain. You could have loved me, and I could’ve been her. Who am I to get mad at you for not loving me back, for loving someone else? I’ve been in love with the same girl for over a decade now. But none of that mattered then nor now. We aim for perfection, but we discover that reality isn't so different from the lives we've been living. Optimism is a wonderful thing until it blinds you. If you don’t confirm your beliefs then your beliefs must be wrong and therefore must be changed. Or will you join the masses and refuse to change, refuse to adapt, and sign away any chance of living a good and righteous life? I didn’t know how to stand. But if this is the only way for me to be able to see you smile every day, then it’s okay. Learning to accept that the the person you love has fallen in love with someone else can teach you some of life's most important lessons. I know because it almost destroy me.